Hope is the reality.
Understanding our life challenges, gives us hope. Hope enables change for the better, sets a new direction for our future, and allows us the opportunity to get to know and trust our authentic selves.
Trust is the challenge.
Sensitive personal challenges require us to uncover thoughts, beliefs, andmfeelings that are not always easy to face. This is no place to venture without trust. But with trust, getting to know your authentic self opens the doors to understanding, accepting and trusting yourself to take on the challenge of change.
You are not powerless.
If the path forward in your life seems insurmountable and
you feel stuck and hopeless, know this: you are not
powerless. The power to change is in you, it always has been.
Change begins with the desire for change.
It Is My Belief,
Everyone has the power to make changes and live life
with clear direction without fear or exception.
It Is My Mission,
to help people recognize
that the hope for a better path lies in each of us
and the way forward is not insurmountable.
It Is My Hope,
That confusion would give way to clarity and doubt would dissolve away,
leaving confidence in place.
Below is a brief overview of what ADD/ADHD, Substance Abuse/Addiction, and Conflict Management Styles look like, and more importantly, how they can look alike. This makes it
difficult to determine what is driving the behavior you are looking to change.
The Challenges of ADHD:
- Careless mistakes and lack of attention to detail
- Trouble focusing and following through on tasks
- Difficulty listening, even when spoken to directly
- Fails to follow through and becomes easily sidetracked
- Difficulty organizing and initiating work
- Avoids tasks requiring sustained mental effort
- Regularly loses things, like keys and phone
- Easily distracted
- Fidgets or squirms
- Feels restless or unable to sit still
- Difficulty with quiet activities
- “On the go” and unable to relax
- Talks excessively
- Interrupts others
- Has trouble waiting for turn
- Sleep Issues
- Appetite/Eating Issues
Signs and Symptoms of Substance Abuse
From the American Council for Drug Education, The following are some of the more common signs and symptoms of drug use. It is important to keep in mind that if a person has any of these symptoms, it does not necessarily mean that he or she is using drugs. They could be due to a mental or physical health problem. They might also be due to adolescent development (in the case of teens). Whatever the cause, they may warrant attention, especially if they persist or occur in a cluster.
- Inability to sleep, awake at unusual times, unusual laziness.
- Loss of or increased in appetite, changes in eating habits
- Cold, sweaty palms; shaking hands.
- Red, watery eyes; pupils larger or smaller than usual
- Unusual smells on breath, body or clothes.
- Extreme hyperactivity; excessive talkativeness.
- Slowed or staggering walk; poor physical coordination.
- Needle marks on lower arm, leg or bottom of feet.
- Nausea, vomiting or excessive sweating.
- Tremors or shakes of hands, feet or head.
- Irregular heartbeat.
- Runny nose; hacking cough
- Puffy face, blushing, or paleness
- Frequent rubbing of the nose
- Frequent twisting of the jaw, back and forth
- Deterioration of hygiene or physical health
- Change in overall attitude/personality with no other identifiable cause.
- skips school or is late for school. Drop in grades at school or performance at work;
- Change in activities or hobbies.
- Chronic dishonesty.
- Sudden oversensitivity, temper tantrums, or resentful behavior.
- Difficulty in paying attention; forgetfulness.
- General lack of motivation, energy, self-esteem, “I don’t care” attitude.
- Change in habits at home; loss of interest in family and family activities.
- Silliness or giddiness.
- Moodiness, irritability, or nervousness.
- Excessive need for privacy; unreachable.
- Secretive or suspicious behavior.
- Car accidents.
- Change in personal grooming habits.
- Possession of drug paraphernalia.
- Changes in friends; friends are known drug users.
- Unexplained need for money, stealing money or items
- Possession of a false ID card
- Missing prescription pills
- Complaints of a sore jaw (from teeth grinding during an ecstasy high)
- Presence of unusual number of spray cans in the trash
Signs of Intoxication, by Specific Drug
- Glassy, red eyes; loud talking and inappropriate laughter followed by sleepiness; a sweet burnt scent; loss of interest, motivation; weight gain or loss.
- Clumsiness; difficulty walking; slurred speech; sleepiness; poor judgment; dilated pupils.
- Cocaine, Crack, Meth, and Other Stimulants
- Hyperactivity; euphoria; irritability; anxiety; excessive talking followed by depression or excessive sleeping at odd times; go long periods of time without eating or sleeping;dilated pupils; weight loss; dry mouth and nose.
- Needle marks; sleeping at unusual times; sweating; vomiting; coughing and sniffling; twitching; loss of appetite; contracted pupils; no response of pupils to light.
- Depressants (including barbiturates and tranquilizers)
- Seems drunk as if from alcohol but without the associated odor of alcohol; difficulty concentrating; clumsiness; poor judgment; slurred speech; sleepiness; and contracted pupils.
- Inhalants (Glues, aerosols, and vapors)
- Watery eyes; impaired vision, memory and thought; secretions from the nose or rashes around the nose and mouth; headaches and nausea; appearance of intoxication; drowsiness; poor muscle control; anxiety; irritability
- Dilated pupils; bizarre and irrational behavior including paranoia, aggression, hallucinations; mood swings; detachment from people; absorption with self or other objects, slurred speech; confusion.
Conflict Management Styles:
Below are the 5 styles of Conflict Management. Understanding your style is the first tool
necessary for managing conflict in your life.
As you can see, all the areas described have some symptoms in common with each other, making it difficult to determine what is driving the behavior you are looking to change.
This is what Personal Life Challenges Coaching is about. Untangling the behaviors that mimic one another with the purpose of Identifying the source of the behavior, which is the first step toward developing the personalized management skills necessary to find hope for a life the way you want to live it.
This adventure starts with a confidential conversation.
Call or Text: 719-331- 1553
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Professionally Trained and Certified Coach for:
ADD / ADHD
Substance Abuse and Addiction Recovery
Conflict Management Skills Development
Training and Certification:
CCAR and McShinn Foundation
ADD Coach Academy Phoenix Strategies, LLC International Certification and Reciprocity Consortium
Member International Coach Federation (ICF) Member ADHD Coaches Organization (ACO) Member of the ACO Board of Directors